Forget FOMO, JOMO (The Joy of Missing Out) is pretty much my goal in life these days.
What is JOMO?
As the title suggests, JOMO stands for The Joy of Missing out. It’s taking pleasure in the fact that you don’t have to live up to the hype of what everyone else is up to right now. Saying no and taking the time to do things for yourself has huge benefits to our wellbeing.
It’s that wonderful feeling you get when curling up on the sofa with Netflix and a glass of wine after the kids have gone to bed. Or after an event gets cancelled that you didn’t really want to go to in the first place. (Or is that just my inner introvert talking?)
Cure your FOMO with JOMO
JOMO isn’t to be confused with FOMO, which is the Fear of Missing out. This seems to be a widespread condition that most people, no matter what age in some way or another seem to be crippled by.
However, patients with FOMO all seem to have one thing in common: they spend way too much time on social media!
Do you have those superficial friends on social media that like to post about every. single. thing they do? Every place they visit, every event or activity they attend? Every new purchase? Yup. Every account has them.
It’s kind of obnoxious and from both sides is cloaked in negativity.
From the poster, though it may come from a place of innocence, it can be a sign of insecurity and narcissism.
It shows disregard for the circumstances of the reader who may consider it as a ‘normal’ lifestyle. These social media posts are a big contributor toward our perception of a ‘normal’ way of living. We see the lives of our ‘friends’ on instagram and their new house, their new car, where they’re going to be travelling to on their second holiday of the year. They show off their new clothes, meals out in expensive restaurants and it’s just down right inconsiderate.
This charade promotes so much insecurity with people on the other end of the post, whether they are consciously aware of this or not. It’s why so many people go into debt trying to keep up with the Jones’, or Kardashians (which makes me seem way more hip, right?!)
As a Mum, I even found that other parents posting their children’s birthday party’s or new outfits made me want to have a mental breakdown, because it made me realise I couldn’t provide those things for my own children in the same way.
It makes readers feel inadequate, and eventually depressed.
Removing yourself from social media sites like Instagram and Facebook can alleviate these feelings. It is an addiction and you will likely find it difficult at first because your brain is not getting it’s dopamine hit on a consistent basis. But after a few days, you won’t miss it at all. You will stop reaching for the phone, and you’ll be free!
5 Tips to embrace JOMO
1. Switch Off
As above, switch off your phone, tablet, laptop, TV. Unplug yourself from the virtual matrix of life and look around you. Say no to push notifications – you’re smarter than that!
2. Live in the Moment
Schedule some time for you and your family to do something meaningful. It doesn’t have to be big or expensive, and you don’t need to brag about it on social media. Go with the flow and be present. It will provide you with so much more value.
3. Say No
If you are invited to a get together that you really don’t want to attend, politely decline. Life shouldn’t be about forcing yourself to do the things that you don’t want to do. Decide on who or what is important to you. Make time for them as a priority and live by those principles.
4. Practice Gratitude
Practicing gratitude is an amazing method of appreciating what you already have in your life and discovering the joy from simple things. Celebrating the small wins every day can really put things into perspective and reassure you that your day was better than you initially realized.
5. Live Slow
Slow down, Mama! Being a parent can make it so difficult to free up time when you have so much going on and little ones to care for. It’s really important to take time for yourself to recharge. Don’t over commit your family calendar and be present with your kids. Sit and play with them, take joy in missing out on the other BS – those aren’t the things you want to remember.
The days are long, but the years are short.
Living a Minimalist lifestyle really makes you question what is valuable in your life. Scanning Instagram every day will not help you in your search for happiness.
Happiness isn’t a destination, it’s a journey. Learn what truly makes you happy. If you take joy from missing out then you can live a content life by simply being intentional with your time.
Are you joining me in team JOMO? Do you have any ways that you take joy in missing out? Please comment below, I’d love to read them.